The Secrets I Keep

In dating, I always think of something during certain moments and with these thoughts of mine, I would always think that most of the time, I would rather keep my thoughts for myself rather than tell them to my date. Aside from what I am thinking, I also have certain actions that’s sometimes not a good example when in dating although, there are also good things.

I like to cuddle. Cuddling is all about mood and ambience. It’s peaceful to lie in someone’s arms in the dark with great music or even the low buzz of the TV, although sometimes, that tends to distract me in the background. It’s nice to hear nothing but your lover’s breath against the backdrop of the evening or early morning. Holding someone close in bed also makes you feel very secure with one another and the relationship.

 

I think we are good in bed. Men are taught that confidence solves just about anything. I can be making a total mistake, but as long as I’m confident, it will turn out okay. This may explain why I am so clueless at what we are doing in bed, but we act like we know.

 

Getting too tipsy on a date is a turnoff. Some people turn into a completely different person when they are drunk. I let the other person learn about me while I’m sober, before I get wasted with them. Alcohol should be introduced into the relationship slowly, but if a drink or two takes the edge off, and wine adds romance it’s fine. I just don’t push it too far.

 

Heavy makeup is a turnoff. I’ve always been the type of guy who appreciates a natural look as it is, and when a girl does her makeup well, the results can be magical. But the one thing that should never happen is excessive application: too much, too many colours, or if it’s just a botched attempt at a good makeup technique. Seems like as time goes by, makeup makes like the earth and changes with weathering. There is nothing more ghastly than makeup run amuck in the morning after spending the night together.

 

Most men put pressure on themselves to get married. Women tell me that they feel more pressure to settle down because they can’t have children as easily past a certain age. I don’t feel pressure in that sense, but I do fear that my appearance and my “game will fade as I get older. It’s fun being one of the few guys in my group of friends who hasn’t yet found love, but at the same time I wonder what is wrong with me and I’m trying to decide if time is running out. I’m so far behind, I can’t imagine being asked to meet on Sunday for brunch by a girl I’ve dated for a month, much less having a child or being married.

 

I want to bail the morning after a one-night stand. I mostly do not linger in bed hung over. I’m foul when I’m hung over, so I am sure others are too. I can’t contaminate someone’s bed with that. I do everything I can to get home and fester in my own bed.

 

And these are the secrets that I am keeping. I bet I am not the only who are doing these as well as thought of these. Men mostly thinks of the same things so with these, girls will now have idea about what some of our secrets might be.

Dating Tips from Guys Part 2

You have read the part 1 of the compiled dating tips and advices from the men I have interviewed and wanted more right? Well, here is the part 2 of the rest of the compiled dating tips and advices I have gathered from men.

BE HONEST

“Say what you mean. Girls have this tendency of expecting guys to read between the lines, then ending up disappointed. If you want something, be specific and avoid causing yourself unnecessary stress. We’re usually pretty open to new ideas.” —Adrian B.

 

DON’T JUMP TO (SEXUAL) CONCLUSIONS

“Please don’t critique or be too harsh about someone’s sexual performance the first time you hook up with him. Things are new and you aren’t familiar with what the other likes yet. Until you’ve had time to communicate about that stuff, it’s impossible to weigh them against your former boyfriend of three years.” —Greg B.

 

KEEP THE FIRST DATE SHORT AND SWEET…

“First dates are best kept quick and noncommittal for both parties—unless you’ve known each other for a while. If I meet a girl and get her number, the first time we go out shouldn’t be a three-hour opera and dinner afterwards. What if we end up not liking each other? Then we’re just stuck and that’s rude. Opt for something that gives you both an easy out, like lunch and a drink. If you guys have a great time, you’re both left wanting more.” —Greg B.

 

THINK LIKE A MAN

“If a girl and I end up hooking up quickly, it doesn’t necessarily mean I’ve written her off. All she needs to do to maintain my interest is…be awesome. Be interesting and interested in me. Plan cool events. For example, ‘Hey, I’ve got an extra ticket to this show tonight. Want to go?’ Go out and do things I’d want to do, and then invite me. Chances are I’ll probably join you. Be willing to embrace the things men love.” —Sam M.

 

SPEAK UP

“I get frustrated when I feel like I’m constantly the one driving the conversation—it happens to me a lot and it feels a little unfair. It’s hard to get the sense that I’m getting to know someone when I’m tasked with doing all the talking. On the flip side though, it’s a rough night when a girl goes on about herself at length without asking me anything about myself. I like it best when someone can counter me with questions of their own.” —Noah A.

 

DON’T TALK SMACK

“Don’t hate on other girls. I actually had one girl, while we were in the middle of a conversation, look over at another girl and say, ‘Eww, look at that girl’s dress.’ The way she said it sounded so bitchy and I wasn’t into it at all. Cattiness isn’t an attractive quality.” —Nick L.

 

GIVE THANKS

The guy will almost always hold the door open, pay for dinner, etc., but it’s still nice to hear a thank you and know that it’s all appreciated. It really goes a long way. I’ve almost come to stop expecting them so it’s especially nice when I hear them. If it doesn’t happen in the beginning, he’ll think it’ll never happen.” —Tyler L.

 

GET FRIENDLY

“It can take the edge off to meet with a group of friends. Invite your guy and his crew to hang in a big group. That way you can get a feel for what he’s normally like around his buddies and it’ll let you both relax a bit more. You can tell a lot about someone by who they surround themselves with.” —Corey O.

 

REACH OUT. LITERALLY.

“I like when a girl gets physical with me, but not in the sexual sense. It’s more in an affectionate way. I love when she’ll touch my arms or something like that as we’re talking. It lets me know she’s interested without being over the top and shows me we’re both there for the same reason. We like each other and it’s clear.” —Stephen S.

 

And this is where you reached the end of the compiled dating tips and advices that I have gathered. I am hoping that you were be able to learn a lot about dating with these tips. Dating is not that hard if you only know how to handle the girl. Just be knowledgeable enough.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dating Tips from Guys Part 1

I am no expert in all that dating tips for guys but I do have a little bit of knowledge and experience. Also, I have a lot of help and tips from many of my friends. Ever wonder what most guys would suggest when dating women? I have interviewed a lot of guys and asked what their tips and suggestions would be. Here are the dating tips and advices from the interview that I have compiled from many men.

BE OPEN MINDED

“Please don’t assume we’re going to the nicest restaurant in the city because I won’t take you there. I’ll take you to a dive bar with amazing burgers to see how you react. If you’re flowing with it and cool, we’ve got a winner. If you seem offended by it, that’s as far as we go.” —Steve M.

 

DON’T OVER-RESEARCH

“Girls should try to avoid pre-judging before a first date. Whether it’s someone you’re meeting online or it’s someone your friends know, aim to drop the things you know about them and start fresh. Don’t ask your friends to tell you everything they can because you can end up with a tainted view of what to expect. Half the fun of going out is getting to know someone new, so allow yourself to let that happen organically.” —Oliver B.

 

CHECK YOUR BAGGAGE

“Please don’t compare us to your exes—out loud or even in your head. Sometimes horror stories about them can make for fun discussion, but don’t ever bring your ex into the conversation if it’s not called for. When I hear about a girl’s man, I’m assuming we probably shouldn’t be on that date period. If she literally can’t keep his name out of her mouth for a couple of hours, it makes me feel like she’s clearly not over past issues. I don’t want to pick up a saved video game: I’m here to start new.” —Orlando O.

 

IT PAYS TO PAY (OR AT LEAST ATTEMPT TO)

“I always appreciate the offer to split the check, even though I never allow it. If we end up grabbing drinks later and a woman insists on paying, I really like that a lot. It shows me that she’s genuinely interested in spending time with me as opposed to wanting to be wined and dined regardless of who she’s with.” —Nate N.

 

BUT DON’T RECOIL IF HE DOESN’T REACH FOR THE BILL…

“If the guy doesn’t say something and take the check off the table to pay, it’s probably fair to assume that you’re going Dutch. There are different reasons that a guy might not pick up the tab (some that might not have anything to do with you), but if you’re into him, avoid looking too disappointed. You don’t want him to think you expected it.” —Josh F.

 

YOU ARE WHAT YOU EAT

“The food you choose on dates says volumes about your character. Dainty foods (read: salads) seem to have a low correlation to fun and enjoyment. First few dates, make the food good, simple and completely forgettable so you can focus on each other.” —Max S.

 

KNOW YOU’RE AWESOME

“I like a girl to be confident going into a date, even if it’s the first one. The normal guy-girl interactions on initial outings usually fall somewhere between awkward and really awkward (which is understandable, especially if it’s a blind date), so having a girl go the opposite route not only makes her more intriguing—it’s also a total turn-on.” —Alex S.

 

Still need more tips and advices, fret not for this is just the part 1 of the compiled results of the interview’s I have conducted with men. Stay tuned for the rest of the tips and advices.

Daniel Brown Is No Dating Expert

When I was just 11 years old, I had a really mad crush on this cute girl. She had freckles. She wore a ponytail. She looked really awesome to me at that time (today, she still looks awesome, tbh). Not knowing anything about love except those chick flicks my mom and sisters watched when I was still young, I asked her in the same manner. Immediately, she refused me. She said I didn’t look too good to be her boyfriend.

Of course, like what any boy would do, I asked my mother if that was true. She told me that there’s always something unique in every person. They might not look too beautiful on the inside or outside, but the way they handle things, the way they conduct themselves, and the ideas they might have, silly or not, are what makes them beautiful. I took heed of my mom’s advice, but still, I had no luck with women.

I am no dating expert. When I was 16 years old, I tried courting this girl. I gave her the usual assortment of flowers and chocolates that came from four weeks’ worth of allowance saving. She told me that she loved my gifts. She said if I kept on giving her gifts, I would be her boyfriend. So I did. But it turns out her pretty face wasn’t all about me, but all about herself (and the school jock during that time).

Of course, any kid would be heartbroken. Any kid would cry. Any kid would ask him or herself “what’s wrong with me?”

Until today, some of us may be asking the same questions to ourselves. What’s wrong with us?

Dude, there’s nothing wrong with you. Girls reading this (and probably criticizing my dating tips posts) there’s nothing wrong with you too.

It’s just a matter of time and place. You weren’t the only guy or girl at that time; the guy or girl was looking for something that resembled their ideal type and not the one that they could love. Inevitably, this is a fact for me.

Whenever you try to date someone, it’s either you’re the one head-over-heels for them, or vice-versa. But I discovered the surest way to find the perfect date.

The perfect date would be someone that would fit your wavelengths perfectly. Unfortunately, girls in this area just want to be friends with you. If they’re stil meddling in the friend zone, they’re probably still too young to realize having a long-time partner.

So you see, it’s a matter of timing and understanding who you are. In this blog, I’ll teach you how to maximize your personality, your uniqueness and use it to your advantage as you try to find the right girl of your dreams.

Girls criticizing this post, you know I’m right; you do like a person who has a certain uniqueness, who isn’t a guy who would tell everything about their achievements and is modest with it, and a guy who has a sense of humour that may be a little offensive but has perfect delivery nonetheless.

I’m here to make that modern, empowered man who is powered by his very soul and emotions to find the right person in his life through the male-female means of romantic interaction: dating.