In dating, I always think of something during certain moments and with these thoughts of mine, I would always think that most of the time, I would rather keep my thoughts for myself rather than tell them to my date. Aside from what I am thinking, I also have certain actions that’s sometimes not a good example when in dating although, there are also good things.
I like to cuddle. Cuddling is all about mood and ambience. It’s peaceful to lie in someone’s arms in the dark with great music or even the low buzz of the TV, although sometimes, that tends to distract me in the background. It’s nice to hear nothing but your lover’s breath against the backdrop of the evening or early morning. Holding someone close in bed also makes you feel very secure with one another and the relationship.
I think we are good in bed. Men are taught that confidence solves just about anything. I can be making a total mistake, but as long as I’m confident, it will turn out okay. This may explain why I am so clueless at what we are doing in bed, but we act like we know.
Getting too tipsy on a date is a turnoff. Some people turn into a completely different person when they are drunk. I let the other person learn about me while I’m sober, before I get wasted with them. Alcohol should be introduced into the relationship slowly, but if a drink or two takes the edge off, and wine adds romance it’s fine. I just don’t push it too far.
Heavy makeup is a turnoff. I’ve always been the type of guy who appreciates a natural look as it is, and when a girl does her makeup well, the results can be magical. But the one thing that should never happen is excessive application: too much, too many colours, or if it’s just a botched attempt at a good makeup technique. Seems like as time goes by, makeup makes like the earth and changes with weathering. There is nothing more ghastly than makeup run amuck in the morning after spending the night together.
Most men put pressure on themselves to get married. Women tell me that they feel more pressure to settle down because they can’t have children as easily past a certain age. I don’t feel pressure in that sense, but I do fear that my appearance and my “game will fade as I get older. It’s fun being one of the few guys in my group of friends who hasn’t yet found love, but at the same time I wonder what is wrong with me and I’m trying to decide if time is running out. I’m so far behind, I can’t imagine being asked to meet on Sunday for brunch by a girl I’ve dated for a month, much less having a child or being married.
I want to bail the morning after a one-night stand. I mostly do not linger in bed hung over. I’m foul when I’m hung over, so I am sure others are too. I can’t contaminate someone’s bed with that. I do everything I can to get home and fester in my own bed.
And these are the secrets that I am keeping. I bet I am not the only who are doing these as well as thought of these. Men mostly thinks of the same things so with these, girls will now have idea about what some of our secrets might be.